IMPORTANCE OF FAMILY IN A CHILD'S LIFE

 

From the moment when children are born, they are dependent on their parents for every need. Parents play a pivotal role in giving every child an essential social unit, a family. Children learn to utter their first words, develop their language, their values i.e. sanskaars and skills from their family. Hence, it would not be entirely incorrect to say that the family is the first school of any child.

According to UNICEF, every child has the right to grow in a family environment that promotes holistic growth and development. However, worldwide over 2.7 children are raised in institutional care. Children who grow up in an institution are at the risk of physical, social and emotional harm with consequences that can last a lifetime. In institutions, there are very few caretakers or providers for a large number of children. Institutions often fail to provide an environment where a child feels emotionally secure and loved. Such children are more likely to become victims of abuse and violence.

Research suggests that children who do not experience direct parental care during their growing years mature at a slower rate and are more likely to have a poor intellectual quotient. Thus, children succeed where they experience positive growth and complete development.

According to experts, it is important to interact with children and spend quality time with them. It is through such qualitative interactions children can adopt essential values from their parents and learn from their experiences. Parents too can learn about various strengths and weaknesses their children possess and enable them with sufficient support and guidance making them confident and resilient.

Organisations like CHILDLINE 1098, India’s only 24-hour, emergency, toll-free helpline for children in distress play a great role in reinforcing the importance of a family in a child’s life. Over the years, they have rescued and protected thousands of missing, runaway children, victims of child abuse, child marriage, child labour, trafficking and beggary and restored them with their families. During the pandemic, CHILDLINE restored 4735 children with their families.

Lastly, Aristotle, the legendary Greek philosopher said, “Man is by nature a social animal; an individual who is unsocial naturally and not accidentally is either beneath our notice or more than human. Society is something that precedes the individual”. An individual cannot break the bonds of mutual dependence in the family or society. This probably develops in the womb with the mother and continues till the last breath.

CHILDLINE JOINS A COVERT OPERATION TO RESCUE A 14-YEAR OLD FROM THE TRAFFICKERS

 

Thane CHILDLINE, Maharashtra received a call from Mission Mukti for assistance to rescue a 14 year-old girl confined at a warehouse in Thane district. CHILDLINE shared all the documents received from Mission Mukti with CWC (Child Welfare Committee), DCPU (District Child Protection Unit) and Sr. Police Inspector of the local police station.  The same evening, NCPCR (National Commission for Protection of Child Rights) contacted CHILDLINE and confirmed the case of trafficking and sought assistance in the joint rescue operation conducted by the NCPCR and Mission Mukti. The NCPCR also shared the case details with CWC and DWCD (Department of Women and Child Development).  CHILDLINE was requested to coordinate with the CWC. 

The joint team of CHILDLINE, Mission Mukti and DCPO met the Sr. police Inspector at the police station to draw up a rescue plan. One senior officer and three Women Police Constables were assigned to join the rescue operation team. The team split into two groups and approached the location of the girl. After combing the area, the girl was found near the gate and taken into custody. The trafficker’s father who was also taken into custody summoned his son on to come to the Labour Camp on the phone. All of them were taken to the police station. 

The girl's statement was recorded at the police station. She revealed that the trafficker had brought her from West Bengal and married her. The CWC was informed about the girl’s rescue over the phone and as per their directions, she was admitted to the Amche Ghar, Shelter Home for girls. Then, the girl was presented before the CWC and is presently staying at the Shelter Home. The accused has been handed over to the West Bengal Police for further action.  The case is still going on.   

Child trafficking is one of the worst forms of modern-day slavery and child abuse. Each year, thousands of children are tricked, persuaded or forced to leave their homes and put their lives at risk in the worst and unimaginable ways. The victims are kept in inhuman conditions and forced into heinous and criminal activities.   

As a society, we need to come together to end this menace and safeguard the future of our children. Please call CHILDLINE 1098, if you come across a case of child trafficking.

ONE MORE FAMILY RESCUED FROM THE BRINK OF STARVATION

In an attempt to control the spread of the Coronavirus, the Government of India has announced a complete lockdown. While this precautionary measure is helping to control the spread of this contagious virus, it has led to the rise of major crises for daily wage earners and migrant workers.

They are the worst sufferers of the side effects of the lockdown. They usually live hand-to-mouth and without their daily earnings, they can barely provide for their family. Currently, most of the daily wage earners and migrant workers are out of jobs. It has become extremely difficult for them to feed their family.

CHILDLINE 1098 received a call from a helpless father whose three children have been starving for 3 days. Hailing from Gorakhpur, Uttar Pradesh, Prashant Sinha (name changed to protect identity) came to Vapi, Gujarat nine years ago to work in a tailoring company. Five months ago, he brought his 3 children, Samir age 11 years, Akash age 6 years and Vikram 4 years old (names changed to protect identity) to his residence in Vapi-Valsad.

During the initial days, of the COVID -19 outbreak, the factory owner gave the father some money and necessities. But soon they ran out of resources and the money. The CHILDLINE team member working on this case coordinated with the district administration authorities to arrange for ration and food items for the family.

Within no time, the DSP of Valsad sent his team with all the ration and food items to the family. Upon receiving groceries from the police, the father immediately informed CHILDLINE and thanked for co-coordinating and arranging for food. 

In these challenging times, CHILDLINE is receiving thousands of calls from children and parents who need help to buy ration and food items. You too can join hands with CHILDLINE 1098 and help us fulfil their needs.

WHEN GOING GETS TOUGH, THE TOUGH GET GOING

Thousands of children go missing each year. Children go missing due to a number of possible reasons such as abduction or kidnapping, trafficking, lost children, running away from home due to conflict with family or living in a difficult and aggressive environment.

Large numbers of missing children end up on the streets in acute poverty. Many are forced to engage in unlawful activities. They are extremely vulnerable and easily exploited. In the year 2018-2019, CHILDLINE received approximately 32,000 cases of missing and runaway children each.

CHILDLINE 1098 is 24X7, emergency, toll-free helpline for children who are in distress. The CHILDLINE ground level rescue teams ensure that every child is safe and secure even in tough situations.

CHILDLINE 1098 has safely restored a missing child with his parents during the lockdown of the COVID-19 pandemic. One day before the lockdown began; CHILDLINE 1098 received a call reporting a missing child who was unable to speak and was at Delhi Gate, Ghaziabad, UP. The team members immediately rushed to the location and found the child, Rohan (name changed to protect identity), 17, alone.

Since the child was unable to communicate, CHILDLINE took the child to the Ghaziabad police station. Even the police could not get any information from him. As per the protocol, the child was produced before the Child Welfare Committee (CWC). Though the child was supposed to be sent to the shelter home in Bijnor, UP, the chairperson decided that the boy should be quarantined at a hospital as a preventive measure due to COVID-19 pandemic.

Since the boy did not show any symptoms, the doctor at the MMG hospital in Ghaziabad was not keen to quarantine the child. However, post continuous persuasion from CHILDLINE, the boy was quarantined at the hospital. While the child was in quarantine, the CHILDLINE team member remained with the child and managed to get the contact details of the child’s family and inform them. The child’s family managed to reach Ghaziabad, despite the limited transport facility. After the due diligence process was completed, Rohan was reunited with his family.

COVID-19: DO'S AND DON'TS OF WEARING A MASK

Corona virus and the subsequent lock down have wreaked havoc in our lives. People have to wear a mask and adhere to various preventive measures for simple daily chores like going out to buy groceries, medical supplies or even fill fuel in our cars. While wearing a mask is important, there are certain rules that must be followed. The World Health Organization (WHO) has given several guidelines for the rational use of a mask to protect oneself from infection.

The list of Do’s and Don’ts of wearing a mask:

Do’s

•  It is important to clean your hand with soap and water or sanitizer before wearing a mask.
• Cover your nose and mouth with the mask and make sure that there are no gaps between your face and mask.
• Replace the mask as soon as it becomes damp and do not reuse single use masks.
• To remove the mask, remove it from behind, (do not touch the front of the mask) and  discard it immediately in a closed bin and wash your hands with soap and water or  sanitizer.
• You need to wear a mask, if you are taking care of a COVID-19 patient or a sick patient.
•  Masks are most effective when used in combination with soap and water or sanitizer.

Don’ts

•          Do not use ripped or damp mask.
•         Do not wear a mask only over your nose or mouth.
•          Do not use loose fitting mask.
•         Do not touch the front of the mask.
•         Do not remove your mask to talk to someone.
•          Do not leave your mask within the reach of someone.
•          Do not reuse masks.

Point to remember: Masks alone cannot protect you from COVID-19. Maintain at least 1 meter distance from others and wash your hands frequently and thoroughly even while wearing a mask

HOW TO INCULCATE THE HABIT OF READING AMONG CHILDREN DURING LOCK DOWN ?

We have often heard parents complaining about how their children spend most of their free time playing games on smartphones, laptops or gaming consoles. They rarely read a book or a newspaper or do something constructive. Since our nation is locked down due to the COVID-19 and most outdoor activities have stopped, parents can encourage their children to develop the reading habit.

Getting hard copies of books may not be possible due to the lockdown. However, there are plenty of e-books available online in both English and regional languages for free. These books are easily available to parents and children across India. Indian authored e-books such as Amar Chitra Katha and Malgudi Days can truly stimulate young minds from both rural and urban India. Here are a few ways in which you can inculcate the habit of reading in your young one.

Daily reading time

In order to motivate children to read, you can set aside some reading time in their daily routine. In rural areas, parents can encourage their children to visit their nearest Common Service Centers (CSC) to access these e-learning books. Under the Pradhan Mantri Digital Saksharta Abhiyan, Government has empowered the CSCs with e-learning books that can be accessed easily by children. 

Let them pick their favourite book

Parents should guide their children on the choices of books to read. Let your young ones choose their favourite subject so that they don’t get bored of reading. If you enforce your choice of topics on them they are most likely to get disinterested in reading.

One book at a time

Allow your child to read at a pace he or she is comfortable with. It is best not to set targets or pressurize them to finish several books at a go. If you force them to read fast or many books at a stretch then your child may just skim through the pages without really understanding the context or experiencing the true joy of reading a book.

A good book can be the best portable friend of children during this time. It has the potential to nurture a young mind and widen their sphere of experience without moving an inch. CHILDLINE 1098 has uploaded several e-books and comics on their website for children in English as well as in regional languages. Here are few interesting e-book links for children Bacche, Vayu Aur Corona (Hindi), Chuka Break the Silence

MANAGING THE MENTAL WELL-BEING OF CHILDREN DURING LOCKDOWN

In the wake of the rapidly spreading COVID-19 pandemic, the lockdown period is also increasing and becoming further restrictive. There is no denying of its impact on mental health. As adults, we are more conscious of the given situation and are trying to manage and exude it in the best possible manner. However, in the case of children, the response to such situations is very different.

Like adults, children too are experiencing drastic changes in their daily schedules. Going out, indulging in outdoor activities, playing with friends is vital for a child’s psychosocial development. However, due to the lockdown, children are now confined at home for longer durations. Therefore, being stressful, cranky or irritable is extremely normal in these situations. Following are few ways to lift the spirits of children during the lockdown.

Lending a patient ear

When children feel stressed, they want someone to LISTEN to them. As parents, you should be patient and allow them to express themselves freely. Listen to their queries and answer them honestly. If they are curious about the Coronavirus and the lockdown, focus on the preventive measures and the positives of the lockdown. A good conversation is a great way to elevate stress among children.

Encourage Scribbling

Motivate your children to write and draw what they think and feel about the current situation. Let them sit by the well in your house or in the drawing-room of your apartment and allow them to put their feelings and emotions on the paper. While writing and drawing, children tend to understand themselves better as well as help the parent in understanding and supporting the children during a difficult time. 

Set Routine

Whether you live in a small village or a big city, setting a daily time-table for your children will help them stay focused. You can add plenty of breaks, meal-time, nap-time, TV time and internet time in the timetable. Parents can also prepare a time-table for themselves so that they can schedule their breaks with the children. In this way, parents can also spend quality time with children.

Seek professional help

If you feel that your child needs counselling, there is no harm in going for professional help. Many mental health experts are providing their services online. You can also call on CHILDLINE 1098 for psychosocial support from any part of India. With professional help, you can create a positive environment at home where children can be safe, healthy and develop their full potential.

CYBER SAFETY FOR CHILDREN: GUIDELINES FOR PARENTS

Children are spending a considerable amount of their time online, as schools are closed and no play-time with friends due to health-related concerns of COVID-19. This has become a major cause of concern for parents.

The internet is an ocean of information and entertainment. But every online activity or content is not safe for children. Many people share inappropriate content online that must not be viewed by children. Online predators can coerce gullible children into sharing their personal information or intimate photographs. Therefore, it becomes extremely crucial for every parent to monitor their child’s online activity. Here are some guidelines:

Limit your child’s screen time

It is a known fact that excessive screen time for children is highly detrimental to their overall well-being. Limiting the number of hours children can spend online, activities they can indulge online or what programs they can watch will enable you to keep an eye on your child.

Communication with children about online safety

An open conversation with children about inappropriate content and people online will make them responsible and vigilant. Explain to them, very clearly why they must not share their personal information with strangers online. Talking to your children will help you understand what type of content your child likes to see online. You can also suggest a few apps or websites that are safe for them.

Parental control software

Such softwares are not spying tools. However, they will help you set rules and limits for children and monitor their online activity. The parental control software like Google Family Link will enable you to monitor every device connected to your network and allow you to set device-specific schedules for your children.

Be a part of your child’s online activity

Co-play online games with your children. Sit with them when they are surfing random websites. This will be a great opportunity for you to closely monitor your child’s activities and spend quality time together.

Monitoring online activity has become very important, especially of children in rural areas as they are now educating themselves through online classes at community service centres. CHILDLINE 1098 has created a pool of resources and activities on their website that are safe for children. 

TURN THIS LOCK DOWN TIME INTO FAMILY BONDING TIME

Online conference calls, working lunches, presentations from the living room has become a daily norm for working parents during the lockdown. While parents are constantly juggling between office work and household work, children are struggling to keep themselves engaged in confinement at home. The complete lockdown has drastically changed their schedules, curbed their play-time with their friends and restricted their movements. Parents can create some memorable moments for their children by turning the lockdown time into family bonding time. Engaging with children in activities like,

Cooking together

Look through recipe books and websites with your children and take their opinion to select the right one. Give them age-appropriate tasks like measuring the ingredients, turning off the stove, etc. Keep tasting food together. Cooking together is a great way of bonding and developing a new skill.

Family game-time

Playing board games, cards, solving a puzzle together or setting up a treasure hunt is a perfect way to spend some quality time with children. It will keep your kids occupied for a few hours and help you unwind after a hard day’s work.

Storytelling session

Switching off from the digital world and telling a story or reading a book to your child is one of the best ways to keep your child engaged. It will help in inculcating the habit of reading in your children. You can make the storytelling session fun and entertaining by reading out loud, emoting words, enacting a few scenes from the book etc.

Nurture a hobby

Let your children explore their creative side with drawing, painting, singing together and dancing. You can also engage your child in making creative and useful items out of old newspapers or things that are no longer in use. This is the best way to bring out your child’s hidden talents.

Children tend to miss their friends the most during the lockdown. Therefore, allowing children to video call their friends once in a while will keep them happy and engaged. For more ideas to keep children occupied in lockdown visit, https://www.childlineindia.org/a/covid19. We have links to regional language content as well.

*As a parent, please monitor your child’s online presence and follow cyber safety rules for children.

A CALL CAN CHANGE A LIFE

As a part of the field action project, Ms Jeroo Billimoria, a then professor at Tata Institute of Social Sciences (TISS) would regularly interact with children living on railway stations and night shelters. Slowly, the children started calling her at any given time of day and night, when faced with crises. She would willingly answer their calls and help them.

Over some time, she realized that it would not be possible to respond to hundreds of children each day. After much deliberations and discussions, the idea of CHILDLINE 1098 was born - a single point of contact who would help children in their hour of need and afterwards. In the inception year itself, CHILDLINE clocked in 6000 calls.

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Today, CHILDLINE receives nearly 25000 calls daily about children in need of care and protection. In the year 2018-2019 CHILDLINE received around 9 million calls.

Role of CHILDLINE in protecting children

v  When a child or a concerned adult call CHILDLINE 1098, the call is immediately routed to one of the six CHILDLINE Contact Centre (CCC) – a state-of-art facility with contemporary BPO facility.

v   If the CHILDLINE Contact Officer (CCO) receives a call for intervention, then the case is transferred to the relevant intervention unit.

v  A CHILDLINE worker from the intervention unit rushes to the aid of the child within 60 minutes of receiving the call.

v  As per the standard operating protocol, the child is produced before CHILD Welfare Committee (CWC).

v  Based on the CWC’s directions, the child is referred to the appropriate organization for care and rehabilitation.

v  CHILDLINE follows up until the child is in safe custody, either with the family or child welfare institution.

CHILDLINE intervenes to prevent a wide range of issues affecting children such as child labour, child marriage, child sexual abuse & violence, missing children, runaway children, homelessness, health and education, children in conflict with the law etc.

Currently, CHILDLINE services are present in 564+ districts and 125+ railway stations to ensure that timely help is provided to every child in distress.

CHILDLINE works in association with multiple stakeholders, including the government, civil society organizations, corporates and community to ensure that child protection becomes everyone’s mandate.

WHEN CHILDHOOD BECOMES A TIGHT ROPE WALK....

Funambulism or walking on a tight rope or wire is a common circus activity in many countries. The Funambulists train for years to balance themselves on a tight rope. In most countries, skilled adult artists perform in a circus equipped with adequate safety measures.

But in India, children as young as 5 years old are trained to walk on a tight rope tied on poles roadside often without sufficient safety measures.

In 2011, the Supreme Court banned circus activities like performing high wire stunts and juggling for children under the age of 14.  The Supreme Court also directed the Government to rescue children engaged in such activities and rehabilitate them. Despite the ban, children are engaged in such activities.

CHILDLINE received a call from a concerned adult on 1098 informing about a 5-year-old girl walking on the rope and performing dangerous stunts near the railway crossing, Mukthiyar Ganj, Satna, Madhya Pradesh.  The girl’s family was begging for money from people who gathered to see the activity.

On the basis of the information given by the caller, the local intervention unit rushed to the spot. The CHILDLINE team found that the entire family was engaged in rope circus activity. They informed the Child Welfare Committee and the District Child Protection Officer (DCPO) who ordered the CHILDLINE team to rescue the child as soon as possible. 

CHILDLINE brought the child and her family to the CHILDLINE office. During the counselling, the child revealed that she has been doing such stunts since last one year. The team produced the child and her family before the Child Welfare Committee (CWC).

The CWC members counselled the family. The chairperson of the CWC warned the family members of legal consequences if the child is found again working and performing dangerous stunts. The family assured CWC that they will take care of the child and enroll her in the school. The local police made arrangements for the child and her family to travel to their native place, Bilaspur, Chhattisgarh.

After a couple of months, CHILDLINE visited the child’s native place. But the child was not there. CHILDLINE does not have any idea about the whereabouts of the child or her family. The team sincerely hopes that the child is in a school and is not working or performing dangerous stunts.

If you come across any child being forced to work or perform any dangerous circus activity, please do not turn a blind eye. Immediately, call 1098 and report the matter.

Disclaimer:  Names and details have been changed to maintain confidentiality as required. 

CORPORAL PUNISHMENT: A CRIME THAT CAN SCAR A CHILDHOOD FOREVER

In our Indian culture, a teacher or a “guru” holds a highly revered position. Teachers play a very important role in raising responsible children. They can transform the lives of their students with the magic of their teaching. A teacher can be regarded as the builder of a good nation.

But what happens when a teacher whom students look up to engages in unfair and harsh means of discipline while teaching? There are a large number of teachers in India who resort to corporal punishment to discipline their students.

The committee on the Rights of Child in the General Comment No.8 defines ‘corporal” or “physical” punishment as “any punishment in which physical force is used and intended to cause some degree of pain and discomfort. The non-physical forms of corporal punishment include belittling and humiliating the child, especially in front of the class.”

Corporal punishment is rampant in our country. Most children do not complain and tend to suffer silently. Students who have been abused by their teachers are most likely to drop out of schools. Prolonged abuse fragments their confidence and scars their lives forever.

In the case of Radha, 16, who faced severe abuse by teachers, has not only affected her mental health but has also injured her hand severely. Radha, resident of Kolkata was studying in Saraswati Devi International Boarding School in Bankura, West Bengal. Her parents are separated. She and her father do not have any contact with the mother after her remarriage.

One day, Radha’s father called CHILDLINE 1098 and informed that she was beaten up by her school teacher, school warden and the son of the school chairman. She was beaten up so badly that her right hand got fractured. She needed immediate medical help, but the school authorities did not help her at all. Her father arrived and took her to the Bankura Sadar Hospital for treatment.

CHILDLINE filed an FIR on the same day at the Bankura Sadar Police Station. The case has also been registered with the Human Rights Commission and they are counselling the child. The accused are currently out on bail. Radha is extremely scarred and worried whether she will be able to appear for her upcoming board exams. Currently, she is living with her father in Kolkata. She will be going to school only to appear for her board exams.

There are many children like Radha who are suffering in isolation. Their self-esteem is being destroyed every day and they don’t know whom or how to ask for help. You can help such children get justice. All you have to do is pay attention to the signs, listen to what children have to say, then pick up the phone and dial 1098….

Disclaimer:  Names and details have been changed to maintain confidentiality as required. 

A CASE OF A 9-YEAR OLD BOY WHO RAN AWAY NOT ONCE BUT TWICE

Kids running away or going missing is every parents’ worst nightmare. Imagine, you wake up one morning to find your kid is missing from home or your kid goes out to play and does not return home. Isn’t it scary? What pushes a child to run away from home?

The children run away mainly because of family or guardian abuse, neglect, conflict with the law, city attraction, stress, etc. Following is a true-life case of a boy who ran away from his home not once but twice and was rescued by CHILDLINE. He is now in safe hands.

In December 2019, Child Help Desk at Chatrapati Shivaji Terminus (CST) received a case of a 9-year-old child, Ram (name changed) who had run away from his home. The boy was a resident of Kalyan in Mumbai suburbs. He appeared very calm and composed in CHILDLINE’s custody. Apparently, he was a repeat offender.

A couple of years ago, he ran away from his home due to major differences with his brother. He stated his brother would beat him up regularly. Back then, he wanted to go to the shelter home. However, as per the orders of the CWC, he was reunited with his parents and was sent home.

This time too, he ran away citing the same problem and was adamant to not want to go back to his family. He requested to be put up at the shelter home. CHILDLINE informed his parents and they arrived to meet him. The boy was then produced before the Child Welfare Committee (CWC). This time, however, his wish has been granted to reside at the shelter home. Currently, he and his parents are undergoing regular counselling at the shelter home.

In the year 2018-2019, CHILDLINE received about 31779 runaway cases amongst others. Of these 17811 i.e. 56 per cent were city attraction cases. About 5751 i.e. 18 per cent were runaway cases related to employment and 8217 cases i.e. 26 per cent were other cases like neglect, abuse, stress, 

Disclaimer:  Names and details have been changed to maintain confidentiality as required.